A successful and happy person is not the one who owns as much as possible or who is surrounded by people and high-value items. A successful person is the person who is smart enough NOT to own. And a happy person is the person who can enjoy what he or she has right now.
Whether you are successful or not isn’t something that is judged by the eyes of outsiders — it is what you perceive yourself. You see your own achievement from what you have done, and what you have been giving. You can be a complete loser even though you drive an expensive car, own a big house, and use brand-name products if you do not perceive yourself as a man or a woman who has already achieved. You will keep striving to own more, do more and present more, with the hope that one day people can see you as a successful person. In fact, you might have been already in others’ eyes — except your own eyes.
Someone I know doesn’t have a car because he feels comfortable using public transportation and walking. For him, having a car is the incurring of unnecessary expenses: parking fees, buying gas, paying maintenance costs and insurance premiums. He doesn’t own a house because he likes traveling and has the freedom to leave his rented apartment anytime he wants to explore the world with no worries. The place is big and good enough to give him the comfort he needs without needing to employ a maid or being the super maid himself when they quit.
This person, however, is caring for others around him and is willing to spend his time and energy mentoring and training good people from nobody to a respectful somebody. He is determined to do the right thing and to build things from scratch with his dedication.
A woman I know is single. She lives alone with no pets, no boyfriend, and no family. More importantly, she does not feel she needs any of those things. She is just happy with what she has and enjoys the life she wants to live with maximum freedom. She looks amazing without any brand names because she is shining and glowing with her own happiness. She said to me that for her, just to walk along the road, see the cars passing by, and feel the breeze on her face, makes her happy. The happiness is not what she is bringing into her life: it is to be in the now, and enjoy her surroundings.
The happiness is actually inside you. It happens when you are fully rested mentally and physically so you can be fully aware of the beautiful moments in your present life. And the success is how you perceive yourself from what you have done for others and what you have been giving and sharing.
These are authentic. You own these qualities and no one can take them away from you.
Your happiness is right here with you in the now.
The best success of yours probably belongs to you already but is waiting for you to perceive it well.
PS: Thank you, Richard Laidlaw, for making me a happy woman because of your endless helps; and for ensuring the success of each post.